Since I wished for a re-do when all hell broke loose at the Shannon House and I clearly won’t be getting it, it’s time for me to engage in a tactical pause in my life.
Have you ever taken a ‘tactical pause’ in your life and did it on purpose? Or were you ‘taken out of the game’ by force when life got to be too much to handle?
Everyone is a candidate for taking a tactical pause at some point or another, but most people don’t do it until something really bad happens…including me.
(HINT: Don’t be like me.)
What is a ‘tactical pause’?
A “tactical pause” is a term used to give time for additional U.S. and allied troops to surge into a country. Lt. Gen. David Rodriguez, the operational commander of the International Security Assistance Force in Afghanistan, calls it “repositioning.” Others use the term “reduced ‘optempo'” to describe the same process. All in all, whatever term they use, they are all just part of a “realignment” necessary to prepare for a major offensive.
Military structure is designed around control. There are rules, they are clear, and they are to be followed. They flow from the top-down, and on a macro level, are not conducive to interactive feedback from the bottom-up.
Generals declare tactical pauses. Privates carry them out.
Are you acting like a General in your life, calling the shots and deciding what the rules are? Or, are you the Private trying to work the chain of command with no real outcome?
I prefer to be the General in my life, thankyouverymuch.
Like I said, I am declaring a tactical pause in my life. The purpose is to find realignment and create a sense of control, but something tells me after 8 years of this roller coaster of a life since my husband was injured, I need to be ready for a major offensive.
Either way, I believe this choice to reduce my ‘op-tempo’ will let me call the shots in my life again. I’ve done it before; I just need to do it again.(I’ll just have to remember to keep my head on a swivel. Those incoming rounds really suck!)
My first order of business: Taking better care of me so I can take better care of those around me.
- I created a Team and Forum on SparkPeople.com for Caregivers of Wounded Warriors. If you are a caregiver who is consumed by the high levels of stress, frustration, a sanity-sucking backlog and overall sense of wanting to go sit in a corner and suck on a Twinkie, this is the place to be.
- Saying NO. Sorry folks, if I don’t answer your emails right away, it’s only temporary. I will not take on new projects unless there is a significant payoff in the end. No more of this “Can I just pick your brain for a second?” nonsense. I will be saying “no” to a lot of things so I can focus on my husband’s health, improving our finances, having more family time and pursuing things I like to do, like writing.
- Asking for help. Yep, as much as I am viewed as Super Woman, I know I can’t do it all. Nor should I. I am going to start outsourcing things that can be outsourced, such as hiring a maid. Even Wonder Woman needs help. In addition, tomorrow I’ll be posting about an offer to my readers who may be interested in a part-time opportunity to work with me from home by doing administrative tasks.
For added effect and to prove the point I am making, I purposely scheduled this post to publish at the exact same time that I will be sitting in a chair getting my tootsies beautified. I haven’t had a pedicure in EIGHT years, y’all. My toenails and callouses won’t know what to think about their owner actually stopping long enough to give them the attention they deserve.
After today, you’ll be seeing some more of the tips and tricks I used, or will be using, to get this crap back under control. It will be fun and informative, I promise.
Do you need to declare an order for a tactical pause in your life? If you do, why? What steps do you think you can commit to, and DO, to make it happen?