Category Archives: Be Flawesome!

Human nature dictates that people have a hard time genuinely connecting with, being close to, or really trusting other humans who (pretend to) have no weaknesses, flaws, or mistakes. The fact is, we are still awesome despite having flaws; even being flawed (and being open about it) can be awesome. Flawesome people show empathy, generosity, humility, flexibility, maturity, humor, and (dare we say it) some character and humanity. Learn to embrace your flaws and celebrate being flawesome!

The secret ingredient to moving on in life after combat

(Or, “Mourning the loss of what once was”) About the advice I am sharing today This topic comes up behind the scenes more times than I can count. I have had more one-on-one conversations with caregiver spouses about this problem than I can count. While it can happen to anyone at any point in their…

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What Is Your Stress Barometer? (The Tale of The Twitchy Eye)

Have you ever had what is best described as a “twitchy eye”? It is the phenomenon where the area around your eye starts to flutter and twitch. It’s annoying. It’s tickly. From your vantage point, you think the person sitting across from you can see your face convulsing uncontrollably. You rub it. You press on…

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Don’t make a permanent decision based on temporary emotions (my confession and what I learned)

If there is one thing we’ve learned through this journey, and in life in general, it’s THIS.  “Don’t make a permanent decision based on temporary emotions.” Here is the short summary of what this means to me: Even when you are convinced that you are absolutely right and justified, it doesn’t give you the right…

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Taking a ‘time out’ from the chaos

Excuse me while I dust off the keyboard here! I can’t believe it has been almost a month since I last posted. Let me start today’s post with this question: Did you get everything done this summer that you planned to do? For many of you, the summer season is full of activities – you…

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10 Easy Tips to Take Stress Out of Your Day – staying on top of the little things!

“To live in perpetual want of little things is a state, not indeed of torture, but of constant vexation.” -Samuel Johnson Have you noticed that you have given up (or lost track of) so many little things in your life that they have turned into a bunch of really big things that significantly add to…

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If you are having a bad day, read this…

Having a bad day? Read this. For best results, use as directed. Wash, rinse and repeat. For internal use only. Today was just a bad day. That’s all… just a really bad day. You are not alone. You are not worthless. You have value. No one is out to get you. You are strong. Believe…

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The 2 most important things I do to keep my sanity each day

Tonight I stopped the world long enough to write this post. Today was a bit more taxing than usual, as Dan’s TBI (brain injury if you are new here) was acting up more than usual with his loss of balance, confusion and agitation. Add to that a sick kid was home from school and missing…

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The excitement {and relief} of the New Year

Or: “How Mason Ball jars, Superman poop and the wisdom of a brain-injured husband helped me see the new year in a whole new way.” Perhaps it was the psychological benefit of knowing 2012 was behind us, but I slept last night for the first time in a very long time. I am honestly and…

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CBS Evening News on Caregiver Stress and Secondary PTSD: Letting my deep secrets out for the world to see (VIDEO)

“You keep convincing yourself that the worst is behind you, and I think that’s what helps you keep going.” ~ Torrey Shannon, CBS Evening News interview I, along with three other caregivers, was featured on Monday night’s CBS Evening News discussing a very important topic: Caregiver Stress and Secondary PTSD. In this post I will…

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6 Life Lessons I Learned From Stalkers, Bullies and Haters

Let’s talk about haters. Yours, and mine. First, we have to look at our biggest critics. Ourselves. Make no mistake…We all do it: that little voice in us that questions our abilities, our talents, our strengths and our gut feelings. “What if I am not good enough? What if I am not smart enough? What…

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