Category Archives: Relationships

Are you in the club no one wants to join?

This is a loaded topic for me and mannnnny others, but today I want to talk about something that came up recently regarding family who doesn’t ‘get it’ in understanding the complexities and challenges of our lives after combat. This is a sore topic with me on multiple levels. It’s one of those topics that…

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The secret ingredient to moving on in life after combat

(Or, “Mourning the loss of what once was”) About the advice I am sharing today This topic comes up behind the scenes more times than I can count. I have had more one-on-one conversations with caregiver spouses about this problem than I can count. While it can happen to anyone at any point in their…

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Don’t make a permanent decision based on temporary emotions (my confession and what I learned)

If there is one thing we’ve learned through this journey, and in life in general, it’s THIS.  “Don’t make a permanent decision based on temporary emotions.” Here is the short summary of what this means to me: Even when you are convinced that you are absolutely right and justified, it doesn’t give you the right…

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What to consider if your husband stresses out while you are away from home

Have you ever left the house by yourself, even for a short time, only to come home to find your PTSD/TBI husband having a tizzy, or in a bad mood, and neither of you really know why? I didn’t know it at the time, but in 2008 the clues were staring right at me, smack-dab…

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Padiddle, assmosis, and where did you say that Chinese restaurant was?

Originally created by Torrey Shannon on Wednesday, May 26, 2010 at 8:24pm We drive a LOT now that we live in the middle of nowhere. Dan’s VA appointments generally require 170-350 miles of driving for each one, and we typically go once a week to some form of appointment. Obviously, we have to entertain ourselves…

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Support groups can be bad for your health.

The other day I brought up an issue about a group of my peers being particularly hurtful (and often hateful) to other people, including me, when they should be the very people that we should count on for support. I said, in part: I’ve tried to dismiss comments made by caregivers who are also in…

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