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The “anniversary period”, explained.

Veteran caregivers: It’s that time of year again! If your veteran is acting ‘wonky’ or is agitated more than usual, this is a gentle reminder to be extra patient because this time of year is when many vets start acting this way. The likely cause? September 11th is right around the corner! When you know…

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Are you in the club no one wants to join?

This is a loaded topic for me and mannnnny others, but today I want to talk about something that came up recently regarding family who doesn’t ‘get it’ in understanding the complexities and challenges of our lives after combat. This is a sore topic with me on multiple levels. It’s one of those topics that…

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The best advice I can give to another caregiver in two minutes or less

No one will give you a handbook.  There isn’t one! There is no recipe to follow. Only you can find the spice that makes your skillet sizzle. Sometimes — no matter how hard you try or how careful you are — the dish will come out salty. You can’t change your circumstances – you can…

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Disabled veteran asks: “Should I be afraid to file for student loan disability discharge?”

I have written about the Department of Education’s Disability Discharge program in the past and have answered gobs of questions (in comments sections) on these previous posts: Original Post: Did you know? Disabled veterans may apply for student loan discharge and forgiveness. Application: CLICK HERE FOR THE APPLICATION in PDF format Complete and detailed information about…

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The secret ingredient to moving on in life after combat

(Or, “Mourning the loss of what once was”) About the advice I am sharing today This topic comes up behind the scenes more times than I can count. I have had more one-on-one conversations with caregiver spouses about this problem than I can count. While it can happen to anyone at any point in their…

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Veterans = The REAL party of “personal responsibility”

I stay away from discussions about politics and religion for a reason, but it’s high time I share what the government shutdown is doing to OUR family and who the true party of personal responsibility is. It’s not just our issue, but the issue of more than 5 million veterans and their families who will…

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What Is Your Stress Barometer? (The Tale of The Twitchy Eye)

Have you ever had what is best described as a “twitchy eye”? It is the phenomenon where the area around your eye starts to flutter and twitch. It’s annoying. It’s tickly. From your vantage point, you think the person sitting across from you can see your face convulsing uncontrollably. You rub it. You press on…

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New York Times/Retro Report: Walter Reed: The Battle for Recovery

          On Monday the New York Times distributed the Retro Report documentary that we were in. You can read the original stories by clicking the following links: Retro Report: Walter Reed: The Battle for Recovery In 2007, the scandalous treatment of wounded soldiers at Walter Reed Army Medical Center shocked the…

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Quiet Crisis {VIDEO} inside scoop

Wow, has it really been a month since I last had the chance to post? ::::dusts off keyboard::::: I’ll get to my excuses in a minute. First I want to share an important video. On September 1st,  an article came out in the American Legion magazine that included part of my story. I’d like to…

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Don’t make a permanent decision based on temporary emotions (my confession and what I learned)

If there is one thing we’ve learned through this journey, and in life in general, it’s THIS.  “Don’t make a permanent decision based on temporary emotions.” Here is the short summary of what this means to me: Even when you are convinced that you are absolutely right and justified, it doesn’t give you the right…

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Taking a ‘time out’ from the chaos

Excuse me while I dust off the keyboard here! I can’t believe it has been almost a month since I last posted. Let me start today’s post with this question: Did you get everything done this summer that you planned to do? For many of you, the summer season is full of activities – you…

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